Presence is one of those qualities that’s difficult to define. So I was captivated years ago back I accidently came aloft its analogue in a book about, of all things, the archetypes of age-old aboriginal peoples. In it, the author, a cultural anthropologist called Angeles Arrien, explained that amid the admiral capital for the shaman or “leader” classic was the “Power of Presence.”
I begin the analogue of “presence” in this ambience to be one of the best accordant I’ve anytime seen. These aboriginal societies believed that back addition apparent these traits, they bedevilled the adeptness of presence:
* Choose to be present and visible
* Appearance up with energy
* Bring advanced all four of the intelligences: mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual
Let’s assay how these three apparatus cabal to appulse our presence:
(1) Choose to be present and visible.
We’ve all been accusable of afloat off, of accepting our apperception wander, instead of advantageous attention. We’re “not all there.” And, as continued as we’re annihilation but a bang on a log, we accept no adeptness because we’re not accidental anything. In adjustment to activity the adeptness of presence, your attendance needs to add value. Pay absorption to yourself in meetings, in conversations, at amusing gatherings, in a classroom. Identify whether or not your attendance is abacus value. How do you do that?
Aside from not actuality abrogating — complaining, blaming, criticizing, arguing — added absolute contributions would accommodate things like alert actively (hearing both agreeable and intent), responding appropriately to added people’s comments (not with your agenda, but with an accepting that you heard and accepted them), allurement allusive questions, authoritative suggestions, alms input, and praising others’ participation.
(2) Appearance up with energy.
Energy, or enthusiasm, is a able aspect of presence. We about don’t attending to shy, reserved, “wallflower” types for administration and guidance. People’s activity is contagious. It makes their attendance motivating.
It’s advantageous to agenda that believability or believability includes three elements:
* Competence: your knowledge, experience, expertise
* Trustworthiness: your bluntness and reliability
* Dynamism: your activity and passion
Keep in apperception that you may acquire the adeptness and be anxiously honest, but if you don’t acquire that third element, dynamism, bodies may not apperceive you as credible. So assuming up with activity is crucial-it reflects on your believability and impacts your presence.
(3) Bring advanced all four intelligences: mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual.
I can’t do annihilation about your brainy intelligence, and your airy intelligence is your own claimed journey. But concrete and affecting aptitudes are learnable and improvable.
Physical attendance is aggregate bodies see about you. It is composed of: your posture, facial expressions, hairstyle and grooming, accouterment choices, gestures, physique, and articulate qualities.
Emotional attendance is how you handle yourself and others. It includes aggregate from your amusing graces, presentation power, and bodies abilities to your teamwork, dining manners, and tech etiquette. Popularized by Daniel Goleman’s book, Affecting Intelligence, the appellation EQ (Emotional intelligence Quotient) refers to people’s adeptness to collaborate, network, socialize, negotiate, and cooperate-qualities acute to success.
So appearance up. Appearance energy. And appearance off your intelligences. You’ll be bulging the adeptness of presence.